What are You Offended by Now?

wpid-wp-1436742937115How did we become a society of the permanently offended?

It seems like there is a whole group of people in our society who just live to be offended by something, and let me say from the outset, you being offended does only one thing…. makes you offended.

Everywhere you turn, someone is offended by something.  Politics, religion, sexuality, entertainment, words, clothes, media….. offended, offended, offended… here is a piece of advice….. GET OVER IT!

In the society that we now find ourselves in, Republicans are offended by Democrats, Democrats are offended by Republicans; gays are offended by straights, straights are offended by gays; black are offended by whites and whites are offended by blacks; men are offended by women and women offended by men, Christians are offended by non-Christians and vice-versa; and on and on and on….. GET A GRIP PEOPLE AND GET OVER BEING OFFENDED!

At this rate, who and what are we not going to be offended by?

I learned this week that I am supposed to be offended by a Christmas song; one that I have listened to my whole life and never knew was evidently about a man “supposedly” trying to sexually assault a woman.  I just thought it was a cute song about a man trying to get a woman he was dating to try to spend some time with him.

If you look at the internet, everything is a conspiracy,  who knew that every agency created to protect and defend the Constitution was now a left-wing conspiracy group designed to bring down the government… who knew?  Evidently, the internet taught us that.  Thanks internet!?!?!?

We all have crap in our lives, crap that sometimes makes it hard just to put your feet on the floor in the mornings and get moving, but we do it and most of us do it in private.  We don’t have the need to share with the world what offends us and demand others be offended too.

In our world of being offended, we now have co-workers afraid to get into an elevator with someone of the opposite sex because of what may be said.  REALLY?  It’s an elevator going between the 3rd and 5th floor.

How about we all just take a breath, grow up  a little and live our own lives without trying to bring everyone else along with our “being offended” mentality.

You know what offends me?  You being offended and expecting me to care!

There is a guy in my town who moved here because he loves it so much.  He opened a successful business and has done very well.  But now, he is offended by other businesses moving into town who he doesn’t agree with politically.  He now wants to homogenize our little corner of God’s Country into the way HE thinks it should be…. here’s a history lesson for you,…. we were this way before you ever moved here and will be long after you leave, take the offended entitlement and move on!

Is there stuff in our world that offends me…. you bet!  But guess what, I’m not asking you to be offended by it too…. I’ll just not listen to the music that offends me, or patronize a business that I don’t agree with or vote for a candidate who doesn’t represent my views on how I think our world should be operated.  But I’m not going to expect you to feel the same.

2018, is almost over, it has proven to be the year of “I’m offended,” on all sides….. here’s an idea, in 2019, let’s all put on our big boy and girl pants and grow the eff up!

And now, you can be offended by what I just wrote!

Friday’s Hero – Nelson Mandela


The selection of this week’s Friday’s Hero is an easy one…. Nelson Mandela.

President Mandela changed history through dignified struggle.  I believe we soften hearts and change minds through our actions, through the way we live our lives, Mr. Mandela did this.

Nelson Mandela is a hero for our time, a man who history will record as one of the greatest ever.

The Words of Nelson Mandela…..

“It always seems impossible until it’s done.”

“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.”

“Real leaders must be ready to sacrifice all for the freedom of their people.”

“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.”

“Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.”

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

“When a man has done what he considers to be his duty to his people and his country, he can rest in peace.”

Today as we honor Mr. Mandela’s life, may he rest in peace from a life of service and duty.  Nelson Mandela, this week’s Friday’s Hero.

Life’s Playlist…. #Thanksgiving Song by Mary Chapin Carpenter @M_CCarpenter


Life’s Playlist…. Thanksgiving Song by Mary Chapin Carpenter

Sunday Playlist…. Thanksgiving Hymn Medley #Thanksgiving2013


Sunday Playlist…. Thanksgiving Hymn Medley

Tuesday 10 – Michael Genford, The I Am Blog

Michael Genford is the author of “The I Am Blog.”  An interesting self-growth study and journey relayed by the author.
I enjoy the positive slant of this blog and appreciate the growth Michael is seeing in his own life.
We are approximately the same age and I find myself on some of the same journeys….  I highly recommend The I Am Blog by Michael Genford.
Thanks for the great read and thanks for participating in the Tuesday 10!
1)Excluding family members, who inspires you?
Generally anyone — friends or strangers — who has an abundance of peace within themselves. This includes kindness, love, joy, happiness, calmness, among many other positive qualities.

2)What is your guilty pleasure?
Chocolate. Chocolate. Oh, and more chocolate.

3)If you were to write a book, who is one person you would want to list in the acknowledgements and what would you say?
It would have to be two people.
My mother and father (both deceased): “To my mother and father who gave me the most loving life a child could hope for. Forever you are with me.”4)What is your favorite sandwich?
Ham, American, Swiss and provolone cheeses, lettuce, tomato, oil and mayonnaise, on gourmet bread.

5)What is the best professional advice you ever received?
“It doesn’t matter what you do in life, if you are doing your best then life will give you the best.”

6)As a child, what was your favorite bedtime story?
I’ve got nothing here. I just can’t remember.

7)Who is the first Presidential candidate you ever voted for?
Ronald Reagan.

8)What is the one career achievement you are most proud of?
Being promoted three times in 16 months.

9)If you could spend the day with any fictional character, who would you choose and why?
Peter Pan. To play from sunup to after sundown? Absolutely!

10)What is the best meal you ever ate?
Lasagna. My mother’s.