Day 7 – My 500 Words Challenge by Jeff Goins.
Write a letter to my children or my younger self.
On the surface it appears this should be a simple assignment for me, since I have no kids and at 53 that doesn’t look like it will change. Logically I should write to my younger self. However, logic isn’t something I always follow, with that said, I write to the children I will never have and only dream of having.
Dear Child of My Dreams,
First and foremost know I love you, or I should say, I love the thought of you. I would always have loved you and there is nothing that you could have ever done that would change that fact.
You would be my greatest gift from God and I know I would have been humbled that he allowed me to be your parent. I was blessed to have amazing parents and I would only hope that I could be half as good as they were.
I never doubted my parents love and if I did nothing else right, I would want you to never doubt mine either.
If I were lucky enough to have been a parent, I would have told you that there are a few things you should know. I would stress to you that you can be anything in this world you want to be, the sky is the limit and dreams are meant to be followed. You should never let anyone devalue your dreams or think you can’t do something, you can, you just have to set your mind to it and make it happen.
When I was younger I had dreams that I didn’t express out of fear, I hope you would never do that. Unfulfilled dreams or adhering to the life you think someone else wants for you will never get you to where you truly want to be. I have regrets about not expressing my own dreams and would never want you to fall into that place, GO FOR IT!
I would tell you, if a dream feels far-fetched voice it, we would find a way to make it happen, together, as a family. Nothing is impossible!
As wonderful as dreams are, I would also stress that, you have to know there are responsibilities that go along with those dreams. Work hard, study, and never give up.
When I was a child, there was one rule in our house, it would apply to you too. My father always instilled in me to “never do anything that would embarrass my mama,” we would revise that a bit and say never do anything that will embarrass your family.
For me I would want you to understand that it is important that as a family, we hold this cornerstone of responsibility, I would stress that you need to be a good citizen, you should care for and take care of others and you should always think of your family when making decisions, it helps you stay on the straight and narrow.
I think the greatest gifts you can give a child is to know if they are loved, dream big and honor family there aren’t a lot of things that can go wrong. However, I would also stress that life isn’t always fair and things happen. Things will go wrong, the child I can only dream of would sometimes fall short, they would face disappointment and heartbreak, unfortunately that is part of life.
What I would tell my child is that I would walk beside them through difficulties. I would hold their hand and I would be a shoulder they could cry on. I would stress to my child that I am available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, every second of every day, no one is more important than you are.
From the day they were born I would make sure my child knew that their name is inscribed on my heart and I will always be your number one cheerleader. No problem is too big or too small to bring to me and when asked, I will be honest with you and give my opinion; however if you choose a different path, I will respect your decisions.
For the child I can only dream of I would let them know, God has given you to me for a finite amount of time. I want to make every moment of your life wonderful, I know I can’t do that, but what I can do is love you today, tomorrow and forever. My child would know that I prayed for you before you ever arrived and will continue to pray for you until my last breath.
Finally, I would want my child to know and understand, you are the legacy I will leave to this world, just as I was for my parents. Live big, live bold and just be YOU, there is nothing greater and I would expect nothing less.
If only I could say for real, I love you to infinity and am proud to call you my child.
Dad, to the child of my dreams