Marriage Equality… What’s All The Fuss About

Today, March 26, 2013, the United States Supreme Court took up the case of Marriage Equality in our land.  It is ironic that almost 240 years into our nation’s history marriage for all Americans isn’t an automatic right, sadly, it’s not.

In a nation where our guiding principles state:

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

we have an entire segment of the population that is unable to enjoy this simple happiness.

The arguments pro and con for marriage equality are heartfelt and impassioned, I get that, but so were the arguments regarding slavery, racial equality, the right for women to vote and many of the other important civil and human rights that have come before our nation through its rich history.

The same arguments that are fought publicly regarding Marriage Equality many of us have fought within our own homes, families and in many cases with internal personal battles.

For my entire life my Christian faith has guided the principles of how I live.

While I have tried my best to be a productive member of society, that same Christian faith has held much of my happiness captive by teaching that my very existence is in direct opposition to God’s word.

It took me many years, with help from many great Christian leaders, family and friends to realize “God don’t make junk” and he made me just the way I am… I’m not a mistake, I’m not  immoral or unnatural, I am not an abomination……. I AM A CHILD OF GOD!

I am a child of a God who loves me, who made me in his image and who provided me with the ability to love others.  That ability to love must include the ultimate committed relationship of marriage.

As stated, it took me many years to come to this conclusion and quite honestly I had reached a point in my life where age and circumstances brought home the stark realization that marriage equality wouldn’t happen for me anyway, so selfishly I took the cowards way out and didn’t participate in the fight.

For many years I sat back and didn’t get involved, with the attitude of this doesn’t affect me, so why worry about it….. what a putz I can be sometimes!

My generation fought AIDS, we fought for our lives and we fought bravely.  My generation put ourselves on the front lines for a battle against ignorance and for the most part we have been victorious in changing hearts and attitudes towards those affected by this disease.

My generation watched as many of our best and brightest suffered and died while hate mongers sat back and made comments about it getting all the right people.

We fought, we made spectacles or ourselves and we helped mold a society where the afflicted are respected and cared for, where they are living productive lives and where there remains hope for a cure.

My generation was worried about staying alive…. thank GOD our younger generation has been able to move past the AIDS battles and now they can concentrate on love and living the typical American dream.

While my generation never thought the possibility of Marriage Equality would ever be possible, this younger generation has led us into the fight and shown through their actions, through changing one heart at a time that we ALL deserve the happiness and liberties guaranteed to us in the Declaration of Independence, those of Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness!

So today, I am here, I am in the fight and I am excited that we are on the cusp of realizing this basic civil right, to love and marry in the United States of America.  In my honest opinion, I don’t think the Supreme Court will make a sweeping statement saying marriage is open to all, however this is only Round One and we must not give up.

While some will say this is a defeat, I proclaim just having this case discussed by the highest court in the land is a VICTORY for us all and for those who came before us.  Today marks a moment in history where we as America begin to make true the statements issued so long ago by our forefathers and we begin a time in our society of true equality under the eyes of God.

Marriage equality isn’t about religion, it isn’t about a left-wing ideology, it isn’t about separation of Church and State.  Marriage Equality is about one thing and one thing only…. it’s about LOVE.

Marriage equality is about the ability to love and be loved and be recognized equally.  Marriage equality is about life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, the basic fundamentals that our nation was founded on and as we have seen time and again, those are principles worth fighting for.

Words to Live By


A Equal


Tuesday Ten ~ Melissa Montes

TuesdayMelissa (Mel) Montes appeared in my life almost three years ago.  It was by circumstance that we were put together as she was the Advertising Account Rep my company was using when I was hired.   Mel and I hit it off immediately.

At our first meeting I noticed the tattoo on her wrist, Phil 4:13, the scripture read at my mother’s funeral just a few months earlier, from that moment Mel had a place in my heart.

Mel left the agency we use for advertising almost a year ago, but she continues to be in my heart.  While we don’t talk as often as we used to, I will always have her back and I know she has mine, we keep up through Facebook and Blog posts.

Today it is my pleasure to feature my friend, Mel Montes as the Tuesday 10 respondent….

1)    Excluding family members, who inspires you? My friends. All for different reasons. I know amazing fathers, ambitious mothers, hard-workers, risk takers and people of faith 183496_10150200379878332_2522993_nand all of them inspire me in their quest to find fulfillment.

2)    What is your guilty pleasure? Us weekly mag, reality TV and re-reading 50 shades (I know).

3)    If you were to write a book, who is one person you would want to list in the acknowledgements and what would you say? I couldn’t pick just one- so I would say “my village” bc everyone that is in my life plays a vital role in me accomplishing my goals.

4)    What is your favorite sandwich? Turkey and swiss on wheat with yellow mustard.

5)    What is the best professional advice you ever received?  No job defines you and no position is going to be the perfect position. Learn what you can and move on when it is time.

6)    As a child, what was your favorite bedtime story? I had a children’s bible with beautiful photographs that we would read from- amazing!

7)    Who is the first Presidential candidate you ever voted for? Bush. Sigh.

8)    What is the one career achievement you are most proud of? Starting over after being laid off.

9)    If you could spend the day with any fictional character, who would you choose and why? Edward Cullen, Christian Grey or Dex Thaler. All fictional men from my fav chick lit books!

10) What is the best meal you ever ate? The lobster and asparagus omelette at the Bellagio. YUM

Life’s Playlist…Take It To The Limit by The Eagles

record%20eagles%20greatest%20hitsLife’s Playlist…Take It To The Limit by The Eagles

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